On love

There’s a line in a Belle & Sebastian song: “If you find yourself caught in love.” Both images of “finding yourself” and being “caught,” as well as that of “falling” in love, invoke a total lack of control. In this sense, love is something that happens to us, without our awareness or control, maybe against our wishes; it yanks us into its clutches. Like inadvertently finding yourself caught in a tangle of thorny branches and falling off the edge of a cliff or something.

The lore is that love is something that is just as pleasurable as it is painful. But are we just trying to make the most of something we’ve given up trying to stop from happening? If we had control, would we “let” ourselves “fall” in love?

I’m not being cynical, honest; just ruminating.

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One response to “On love

  1. Here is a great a quote From Nietzsche, Thus Spoke Zarathustra. I’ve been and still am pondering on this idea. There is something about this quote makes a whole lot of sense, but there is also something that doesn’t make sense.

    “True, we love life, not because we are used to living,but because we are used to loving. There is always some madness in love, but there is also always some reason in madness.”

    In love, we have to find a reason to be mad. There is always something that triggers our emotions and feelings for another person. Love is a universal energy, so what goes around comes. If love seems to be the gravity of causing that “fall”, would you want to pull yourself back up from the pain and from the pleasure that you speak of?

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